26 Things Adults Do Who Have Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse

1. They have commitment issues, probably because they had a hard time trusting anyone as a child.
2.
They sometimes go into auto-pilot mode and blank out entire
conversations or events. This is due to disassociation, a skill learned
in childhood, and it’s often unintentional.
3.
Mood swings which seem to come at random times are often the norm for
them. This is often because they had to deal with this as a kid, so the
only response they knew was to model the behavior.
4. They may commit acts of self-harm. This often follows from doing this in childhood.
5. They are angry underneath it all, and have outbursts of anger seemingly from nowhere.
6. They are nervous all the time. This may make them seem edgy or startle easily.
7. They don’t feel valid. No matter what they’re doing, they’re unsure if they can do it.
8. They have low self-esteem.

9. They don’t handle compliments well. They doubt their veracity.
10.
They are quiet. They don’t feel comfortable using their voice after
being worn down as small and wrong throughout their childhood.

11. They may have issues getting close to others, because they may not especially, in general, like people.
12. They may beat themselves up mentally and emotionally, since they were beaten emotionally for so many years.
13.
Conflict gives them immense anxiety, so they often run from it instead of facing it.
14. Making eye contact is extremely difficult and speaking makes them anxious, making it even more difficult.
15. They fear others abandoning or leaving them. They have attachment issues.
16.
They are often defensive, perceiving people as negative or offensive because of their previous abuse.
17. Often afraid of contact with people, they may be introverted and try to distance themselves as much as possible.
18. They may be sensitive to loud noises, as they were raised in an environment of raised voices and yelling.
19.
Many victims of emotional abuse overdo it because they want to please
everyone. They become perfectionistic, tidy, clean and organized.
20. Often they will have trouble making decisions, after hearing throughout childhood that they were not good enough.
21.
They are tough, but very sensitive. Because of experiencing a plethora
of emotions at a young age, you have considerable emotional sensitivity.
22. The world of emotional abuse leaves them second-guessing everything.
23. They constantly say that they’re sorry.
24. They will often ask questions to which they already know the answer, due to self-doubt.
25. They have addiction issues.
26.
They are actually remarkably humble. They sincerely appreciate the good
things in their life. They are a strong, grateful survivor of their
past.

26 Things Adults Do Who Have Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse

Something tells me that applying a man made rationale, such as reason, to human behaviour (like emotions and subconscious cognition’s) which usually has no foundations in logical sense is really just another human justification. Also it shows complete aversion to the arbitrary nature of things and events that we so desperately wish we controlled. Semantically speaking, I believe that everything has an explanation, but not necessarily a reason. There is a distinction between the two surely? How can it not be multifaceted?


“All it takes is to discard the vain notion that everything happens for a
reason is to imagine one small way that one small thing could be
better.”

No, Everything Does Not  Happen for a Reason

Other forms of this include: “There is no such thing as coincidence,”
and: “It’s all part of the great plan.” They are all the intellectual
offspring of Leibniz’s ludicrous claim that “this is the best of all
possible worlds.” Each form betrays the same enormous conceit and the
same willful negligence.


In his darkly comedic masterpiece, Candide, the great Voltaire
shows exactly how stunning a lack of imagination one has to be possessed
of to believe that everything happens for a reason.


Believing in a caring, planned out universe is a consolation that
everyone wants to offer to themselves at some point, whether that
involves a god or not. A beneficent, caring, superior being in control
is something that we get used to as children, and we miss it when it is
gone. I am simply saying that this is not a good way to go about getting
that particular consolation.

No, Everything Does Not  Happen for a Reason