Tag: humans

Research has shown that pleasure affects
nutrient absorption. In a 1970s study of Swedish and Thai women, it was
found that when the Thai women were eating their own (preferred)
cuisine, they absorbed about 50% more iron from the meal than they did
from eating the unfamiliar Swedish food. And the same was true in the
reverse for the Swedish women. When both groups were split internally
and one group given a paste made from the exact same meal and the other
was given the meal itself, those eating the paste absorbed 70% less iron
than those eating the food in its normal state.

Pleasure affects our metabolic pathways; it’s a facet of the complex gut-brain connection.
If you’re eating foods you don’t like because you think it’s healthy,
it’s not actually doing your body much good (it’s also unsustainable,
we’re pleasure-seeking creatures). Eat food you enjoy, it’s a win-win.

“Often children who survive extremely adverse childhoods
have learned a particular survival strategy. I call it ‘strategic
detachment.’ This is not the withdrawal from reality that leads to
psychological disturbance, but an intuitively calibrated disengagement
from noxious aspects of their family life or other aspects of their
world. They some how know, This is not all there is. They hold the
belief that a better alternative exists somewhere and that someday they
will find their way to it. They persevere in that idea. They somehow
know Mother is not all women, Father is not all men, this family does
not exhaust the possibilities of human relationships-there is life
beyond this neighborhood. This does not spare them suffering in the
present, but it allows them not to be destroyed by it. Their strategic
detachment does not guarantee that they will never know feelings of
powerlessness, but it helps them not to be stuck there.”

— Nathaniel Branden, The Six Pillars of Self Esteem

Science has proven that:

  • Humans have auras (x)


  • Humans have organs that sense energy (x)


  • We inherit memories from our ancestors (x)


  • Meditation repairs telomeres in DNA, which slows the process of aging. (x)


  • Compassion extends life (x)


  • Love is more than just an emotion (x)


  • Billions of other universes exist (x)


  • Meditation speeds healing (x)

26 Things Adults Do Who Have Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse

1. They have commitment issues, probably because they had a hard time trusting anyone as a child.
2.
They sometimes go into auto-pilot mode and blank out entire
conversations or events. This is due to disassociation, a skill learned
in childhood, and it’s often unintentional.
3.
Mood swings which seem to come at random times are often the norm for
them. This is often because they had to deal with this as a kid, so the
only response they knew was to model the behavior.
4. They may commit acts of self-harm. This often follows from doing this in childhood.
5. They are angry underneath it all, and have outbursts of anger seemingly from nowhere.
6. They are nervous all the time. This may make them seem edgy or startle easily.
7. They don’t feel valid. No matter what they’re doing, they’re unsure if they can do it.
8. They have low self-esteem.
9. They don’t handle compliments well. They doubt their veracity.
10.
They are quiet. They don’t feel comfortable using their voice after
being worn down as small and wrong throughout their childhood.
11. They may have issues getting close to others, because they may not especially, in general, like people.
12. They may beat themselves up mentally and emotionally, since they were beaten emotionally for so many years.
13. Conflict gives them immense anxiety, so they often run from it instead of facing it.
14. Making eye contact is extremely difficult and speaking makes them anxious, making it even more difficult.
15. They fear others abandoning or leaving them. They have attachment issues.
16. They are often defensive, perceiving people as negative or offensive because of their previous abuse.
17. Often afraid of contact with people, they may be introverted and try to distance themselves as much as possible.
18. They may be sensitive to loud noises, as they were raised in an environment of raised voices and yelling.
19.
Many victims of emotional abuse overdo it because they want to please
everyone. They become perfectionistic, tidy, clean and organized.
20. Often they will have trouble making decisions, after hearing throughout childhood that they were not good enough.
21.
 They are tough, but very sensitive. Because of experiencing a plethora
of emotions at a young age, you have considerable emotional sensitivity.
22. The world of emotional abuse leaves them second-guessing everything.
23. They constantly say that they’re sorry.
24. They will often ask questions to which they already know the answer, due to self-doubt.
25. They have addiction issues.
26.
 They are actually remarkably humble. They sincerely appreciate the good
things in their life. They are a strong, grateful survivor of their
past.

26 Things Adults Do Who Have Experienced Childhood Emotional Abuse

“I’m perfectly prepared to believe that the world is not only more
complicated than we know but than it is ever possible for us to know,
simply because we are limited as human beings by the capacities of our
sense organs. There could be incredible visual phenomena actually
occurring in this room right now which you and I simply can’t see—no
doubt they are occurring—because our retinas are only capable of
responding to a very short portion of the spectrum of light. The room
could be filled with angels, you know, dancing nude—and we wouldn’t know
it.”

Reynolds Price, from Conversations with Reynolds Price, ed. Jefferson Humpheries (University Press of Mississippi, 1991)