“Many abused children cling to the hope that growing up
will bring escape and freedom. But the personality formed in an
environment of coercive control is not well adapted to adult life. The
survivor is left with fundamental problems in basic trust, autonomy, and
initiative. She approaches the tasks of early adulthood–establishing
independence and intimacy–burdened by major impairments in self-care, in
cognition and memory, in identity, and in the capacity to form stable
relationships. She is still a prisoner of her childhood; attempting to
create a new life, she reencounters the trauma.”
— Judith Herman
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